I always feel like I am my friends second (or more) choice. I love spending time with her, and she loves spending time with me when we are not with our other friends. She makes it obvious that I’m not her favorite and she cares more about our other friends even by the little things she does, which makes me feel like I’m not good enough. The problem is, I have so much fun around her and she’s so nice. I can’t imagine letting her go, but even if I did I’d probably lose my other friends I really love.
- Second Choice
Dear Second Choice,
It is unfortunate that you are experiencing the feeling of not being this girl’s favorite person, but it is possible for you to be friends without being her go-to gal. Not every friend in your life has to be your best friend. Simply enjoying her company is enough of a reason to stay friends. If you truly feel hurt by her, you should tell her. She might not be aware of her behaviour. You can distance yourself a bit without ending your friendship. Maybe you just need to find other friends who you can have a deeper connection with. Just remember that how she acts does not measure your worth, but if she makes you feel small, it may be time to let go.